Governess of the Royal Marks – Viscountess Frances Jocelyn
Viscountess Frances Jocelyn was the English Lady who delivered the Royal
Marks to Marcos Manoel in April 1850. She was born Frances Elizabeth
Cowper, daughter of one of the wealthiest men in England. She was a straightforward
girl without coquettishness and known to her friends as “Fanny”.
Lady Frances Cowper received the Royal Order of Victoria and Albert;
First class only went to Kings, Queens, Empresses and Princesses;
2nd class all went to Princesses . . . except for Viscountess Frances Jocelyn,
her sister-in-law, Baroness Barham1 and the Duchess of Sutherland, whose
father was the 6th Earl of Carlisle . . . so it was all very in-house, including the breeding of Queen Victoria’s secret firstborn son.
Jocelyn’s ‘father’ was Peter Cowper, 5th Earl Cowper (1778–1837). Jocelyn’s mother was the Honourable Emily Mary Lamb (1787–1869)
Countess Cowper, daughter of the infamous Lady Melbourne.
Emily Lamb wielded enormous social influence and was a leading
patroness of Almack’s Assembly Rooms – established in 1765 as the English
version of the French Salon (intelligence gathering) – and a long-standing
mistress of Henry John Temple a.k.a. Lord Palmerston (1784–1865).
When the 5th Earl Cowper died in June 1837, Countess Cowper (52)
married Lord Palmerston (55) on 16 December 1839. They are buried next to each other in Westminister, as Lord and Lady Palmerston.
Officially Emily Lamb served Palmerston for at least 25 years, but that
was only the marriage (1839–65). She was also a leading political hostess
in London, and they had a 55-year-long relationship from at least 1810–65.
Henry John Temple was the father of at least two of Emily Lamb’s
children, including her eldest child, William Francis (b. 1811), and her
youngest, Frances Jocelyn (b. 1820).
The Honorable Emily Lamb was the younger sister of Lord Melbourne
(Prime Minister in 1834 [4 months] and 1835–41). Her formal education was limited, she was raised by a variety of governesses, and the focus of
her education was on flirtatious social skills to draw out the knowledge
from English and European aristocracy.
This was taught to her by her mother Viscountess Melbourne
(Elizabeth Lamb) and the Duchess of Devonshire, both of whom had a
string of extra-marital affairs, and taught her the ‘Devonshire House drawl’
(vowels unzip flies darling).
Emily (Frances’ mother) took this to heart and carrried on the family
tradition, with even greater success, installing the natural father of her
children as Prime Minister, 14 years after her brother, Lord Melbourne.
The Honorable Emily Lamb made her society début with noticeable success, and quickly bagged herself a rich dullard. They married a year later.
Emily (18) married (20 July 1805) 5th Earl Cowper (27). Peter Cowper was dull, a slow speaker, lacked ambition and failed to make it into politics – rare for an Earl. This was in marked contrast to Emily who was intelligent, socially gifted, vivacious, and flirtatious. They lived together in Panshanger, Hertfordshire where they rarely spoke. Their marriage became one of contract.
Emily had affairs and Cowper didn’t seem to mind. Emily had children to others, and Cowper didn’t seem to mind. Emily had children to Henry John Temple, and still Cowper didn’t seem to mind. That was how it was.
Lord Cowper died in June 1837 with few tears shed. Already Palmerston’s natural daughter, Jocelyn Cowper (19) became Henry John Temple’s stepdaughter on 16 December 1839. So it was now all in the family, including Cowper’s wealth, titles and the largest landholdings in Hertfordshire (37,869 acres / £60,000 income). Frances’ older brother William (28) was also Lord Palmerston’s son and they looked very much alike.